“Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble,and He delivered them from their distress.He sent out His word and healed them, and delivered them from their destruction.Let them thank the Lord for His steadfast love,for His wondrous works to the children of man!” Psalm 107: 19-21
After much thought, I’ve decided to end this blog. It has been such an honor to write this blog, and the wonderful encouragement and feedback I’ve received while writing it will always be precious to me.
The main reason I’ve decided to stop writing it is because I just don’t feel like I have much more to write about at this time. Maybe someday I’ll have something else I feel like writing about, but for now I believe I am done writing about my divorce and the healing process that has followed it.
The second reason I’ve decided to stop writing is because I am at a place in my life where I want to move on. Most days now I have a great sense of peace about my past, and I don’t want to linger on the past. Lately, I’ve had some major achievements in healing and I feel very hopeful about my future. My birthday was in February. If you know me, you know I LOVE my birthday. I realized a few days after my birthday that I didn’t think about my ex or my divorce once during my birthday. I also recently did something on Pinterest that basically every single girls does…I created a wedding ideas board (it’s a secret board…sorry). These both might seem like tiny things, but to me they were huge.
Over the past 2+ years I have learned a lot about myself. I have learned that I am a courageous daughter of God who is resilient and can survive really difficult times with the help of my Father in Heaven. I have also learned that music is very therapeutic for me, thus why I’m considering going to a total of four concerts this week (there’s just too much good live music in Nashville!). I have learned that I have an amazing group of family and friends surrounding me. I have learned how truly blessed I am.
I have also learned a lot about life. I’ve learned that to survive a human needs hope. The feeling of hopelessness is terrible, and I will do everything in my power to keep others from feeling that way, I have learned how to truly trust and rely on God. I have learned how to have true peace about my life on Earth, and that in the end nothing truly matters except serving God.
Just because I’m ending my blog does not mean that I still don’t have things I struggle with and that I still don’t have bad days every now and again. The main thing I’m still working on is dealing with the fear of abandonment. I’m trying to deal with the fact that people might choose to not be in my life, and that’s ok. It doesn’t mean something is wrong with me (or with them either).
I want to end this last entry with a special message to anyone going through or anyone who has gone through a divorce. You can survive this. I promise. It’s going to take a lot of time, work, prayer, and support, but you can do it. I know it hurts worse than anything you’ve ever felt, but God can and will heal you. You’re also not a freak who doesn’t deserve love. Everyone deserves love, even if the divorce was “your fault”. All you can do is ask for forgiveness from those you’ve wronged, and then forgive yourself. Finally, strive for integrity through the process. You won’t regret that when you look back. God loves you no matter what you’ve done and He will get you through this terrible time.
Thank you everyone for your past and continued support. I love you more than I can truly express and I will spend the rest of my days trying to show you how much I appreciate your love.